Dear Collective: It’s Ok to Not Always Be Love and Light
Because “love and light” ain’t always hittin’…
And if nothing else, I believe people need to be at peace with knowing everyone isn’t walking around with pink clouds and glitter stashed underneath their long white robes, ready to sprinkle joy and cheer on sight.
First off, that shit is exhausting and I know because I tried it.
Our world is awakening from a deep slumber and with that comes a resurgence of spiritual hustlers who profit off of people’s pain. We have to sift through the muck and mire, and often this happens when we’re not at our greatest. Be assured, that’s ok. It’s beneficial to feel the feels and avoid connecting with fake prophets over trauma bonds because it happens too often.
I’m also a recovering trauma bond addict.
Dear collective, it’s ok if you’re not always pink clouds and glitter.
It’s all fantastical
The color wheel tells us pink has warm, chill vibes. It’s soft and endearing. Add a hint of red and it gets loud, but it’s chock full of delectable dreams and visions. Whimsical and happy. Goody gumdrops and clicked heels.
Thing is life ain’t always pink.
And not that we should expect the “dark” (which I enjoy), but it’s a reminder the fairy tale of love and light is just as detrimental as the deep abyss. Like the poppies in The Wiz. Cute until we’re so high we can’t come down. Folks convince themselves basking in the pink means suppressing the Black, brown, or blue. As with anything unchecked, too much might have you “waiting on the lord” and not doing the work.
Plot twist: the work requires you to move through the dark to get to the light.
Double plot twist: the Moon is light.
Love and light wielders use the pink side of spirituality to gaslight folks and promote spiritual bypassing. They’ll tell you pink is in sync and anything outside of that is “low vibration.”
Lesson 1: the unaccountable see the truth as low vibration
Most of the time, it doesn’t sink in. I’ve learned through growth, we rationalize our behavior because we’re convinced it has a purpose — it doesn’t. Just a wad of excuses that prolongs the inevitable. I found, feeding the love and light heauxs with a dose of reality is often indigestible. Few want to admit the pink clouds and glitter is only in the bubble. It’s not the duality of life — and trust, life has duality.
Lesson 2: the unaccountable heal themselves through you and call it guidance.
Some time ago, I shared a meme about dismissive positivity and shit went left quick. Though my intentions were sincere, showing the perverse side of love and light didn’t sit well with many. And while positive vibes are great, it is possible to be so positive you become disconnected with empathy.
Sit with that for a second.
It is possible to become so engulfed in emitting “positive vibes,” you inadvertently gaslight people into believing their shadow work, the process, and the transformation is happening to them and not for them.
I had to take a step back and unpack what that meant.
Yes, we must find the positive in every situation. The Wheel of Fortune tells us for every up, there’s a down and karmic lessons are life’s way of challenging us to grow. We use the blissful feeling of the ups to keep balanced when life flows down. At the very least, it keeps us centered. Where this goes wrong is the expectation to always be up. The fake it till you make it energy isn’t the solution to every problem. Masking our crying insides with a smile does just that — mask the problem.
Positive vibes are motivation, not the solution
We can smile and skip around as if nothing’s wrong, but it only elongates the harsh truth we need to address. Whatever the work looks like for us, it’s not pretty and people need to know this. People need to know addressing traumas and triggers isn’t a simple ABC special. Shit doesn’t always wrap up in a 30-minute commercial-free segment. There are levels and each level must meet a different part of ourselves that doesn’t resonate with a “positive vibe.” It’s painful, exhausting, cumbersome, and often redundant. We don’t always get it right the first time and often have to relive those moments, unfolding different nuances each time. It’s as if the Universe has us on trial and we’re being crossed examined. Forced to look at all the shit we did that got us to this moment.
At no point will you feel “positive” when this begins or after. Discomfort in our deep abyss can easily send us into a downward spiral when it comes time to face the Moon in all her glory.
Reminders: the Moon is light.
Everyone doesn’t have the luxury of dipping in and out ecstasy on cue. Those who keep their internal ‘shrooms on standby, project their disconnected feelings onto others — as if it’s a crime to feel. Those feelings and emotions are guides that direct where we need to place our attention and either prompt removal, readjustment, or reconciliation of what no longer has a purpose. Healing is often ugly but… the love and light heauxs are remiss from telling you self-care looks like a daily shower and a proper eating schedule when you’re going through.
People aren’t toxic or dwelling in low vibration while feeling their way through their pain and uncertainty — they’re human. Attempting to douse glitter and sparkles on folks doesn’t hold space for them to go through — though, it does suffocate them. Going through requires breath and gentleness. All that glitter does nothing but clog up the Throat Chakra and remind people where they aren’t, as opposed to where they are and need to be.
No, you need not wallow in it honey, but you damn sure need to feel that shit so you know what it is and remember not to go back there on purpose.
New age spirituality keeps us disconnected from our human side. Ascension cannot occur without integration and karmic lessons will continue to cycle through until the bypassing ends. We have to adjust to being in this realm. Our challenges are our testament and not that the world stage needs to see every aspect of the journey, but we shouldn’t be afraid to show our imperfections, specifically if we’re advocating for others to show theirs.
How else will people learn to vibrate higher if they don’t see an example? Let’s stay at this peak because this valley is too low is tiring.
Dear love and light crew, I know you’re tired too. You can come down from the pink clouds now.
Pushing energy into one place while trying to suppress it from another isn’t transmutation. Cause when shit gets heavy, none of those spiritual memes bookmarked for a rainy day mean shit. And while they might tap on a light bulb or two if a person isn’t there, they ain’t there and trying to force them to be is a shitty thing to do.
Snatching edges daily isn’t necessary. Overdone and constantly absorbed satiates the ego. The receiver gets addicted to being emotionally dragged, believing they’re just a fucked up individual; while the sender’s ego is filled from exposing apart of a person’s pain. Remember lesson two? Such is the beginning of a god-complex and many who do this are revered highly in spiritual communities.
Sounds toxic? That’s because it is and it’s masked as “love and light.”
Gotta be careful with the love and light heauxs.
Pink clouds and glitter often numb pain that’s inevitable. Eventually, you’ll feel and when you do, the love and light heauxs will yield the brunt of your complaints, so I implore you to be accountable for your healing, feelings, and emotions.
Sib, it’s ok not if you’re not always pink clouds and glitter.
The thought of being up and “on” all the time for the masses will always be exhausting. Don’t let these love and light Glindas distract you from evolving.
Trust me, you need to embrace your dark to appreciate your light. Because there is no light without dark. And yes, you must create harmony in your life but it’s so important to balance being where you are in the now. Your feelings and emotions, along with the events that occur keep you tethered to the now. Master that first before you enter the rabbit hole of ether vibes.
Growth happens in the dark but the Moon always shines through the grey clouds illuminating in the midnight sky. Obsessed with glitter? The stars radiate the same and while you travel down the path of uncertainty, be clear the bliss you seek is on the other side of the tension you avoid.
Dear collective, it’s ok to walk among the grey clouds once in a while. It is in the most dismal of places, we find the self we lost.
With love…
