I believe the disconnect here is the intent.

Of course, you didn’t feel empowered during your “heaux phase” because you were in it for the orgasm and while that feels great momentarily, it gets old and you want more. Most people who have sex are there for two reasons: babies and orgasms. No one explores the healing side of sex and it’s because it’s not taught, acknowledged or encouraged.

You said a lot here, some of it reads like rhetoric, some of it I can see where your view on sex and relationships, overall, is very linear. You use focus and monogamy n the same sentence as if it is law. Monogamy is a choice, which I also understand doesn’t resonate with the majority and that’s OK.

A person’s intimate or sex life will be unfulfilled in casual sex if they enter the encounter from a space of lack, using sex as an escape but that’s another article for another time.

I understand this isn’t a favorable perspective because of religion and upbringing, but I challenge anyone reading this response, including you, to explore the different facets of sex to include creative energy and self-healing. If you so choose.

Thank you for reading.